Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Given my complete and total prudery, you might not think I'd enjoy this book, which is all about the author's experience with alcohol, men, and lots and lots and lots of sex. Sex with old men, young men, men with girlfriends, men who almost rape her...it goes on and on. If this were a friend of mine, I'd be seriously concerned. If it were Honey Bear, I would jerk a knot in her before some crazy pervert got her.
I'm kind of ashamed to tell you that I thought the book was hilarious. The author really reminds me of Laurie Notaro and Jen Lancaster. Her sense of humor is completely off the wall and her writing had me rolling on the floor. As I was reading it, I loved it. But now that I've had a day or so to think about my review, I'm becoming more ambivalent. The writing was hilarious - no ambivalency there.
But I can't help thinking about how this stuff supposedly really happened. If a friend of mine told me a "hilarious" story about being sexually assaulted by two men on a date, I would be horrified. That's the kind of thing people go to therapy for. I also wouldn't think it were funny for a friend to be in a long-term relationship with a man who has a live-in girlfriend. Or for her to get so drunk she passed out and got hit by a car but couldn't remember any of it. Or had sex in exchange for things like dental care.
So on one hand, I feel like the book was so funny. It had me laughing the entire time. On the other hand, I feel completely guilty about enjoying and being entertained by these experiences in the life of a stranger. Somehow she makes them seem so funny, but when you really think about it, there's not much humor in date rape, drunken blackouts, or potential sex trafficking. The more I think about it, the more Super Prude starts to disapprove.
Consensus: The book is really, really funny. But Super Prude does not recommend this book and thinks it is exploitative of women. Also, there is a lot of cursing and drug consumption.
What do you guys think? Can you get past a person's self-destructive behavior in a memoir? Can you still get past it if the author makes light of serious and dangerous situations/issues?